When do you finally say I GIVE UP!!!! We come to a point in our lives when we feel like giving up on our careers. There are certain factors that makes us want to quit. One, the pay is not good. Two, the company is unstable, Three, benefits sucks! Four, Better offer from a better company. But, what keeps us from staying and not leaving the company we have loved for the longest time??? Simple, it’s the people around us. The management team, the team itself, and the friends we have made along the way. BUT!!!! What if these same people are the cause of wanting to just leave and quit altogether? You see, when managers do not know how to handle or lead their people chances are their subordinates loses focus, gets demoralized and demotivated. Leaders are supposed to inspire, lead and push their subordinates to the best of their abilities and not only see the faults. I have read in my favorite book The One Minute Manager, that you give One Minute Reprimand and One Minute Praising. Of course you have to set One Minute Goals for the subordinates to know what needs to be done and needs to be achieved. Otherwise, giving reprimands and just focusing on faults will just make the individual feel less and less incapable of doing their tasks. A leader should learn to support his/her team. Make him/her feel that there is always room for improvements and the leader should be there to support the individual in every step of the way in achieving goals.
We quit because we don’t get the support we need. We quit because we feel too much pressure to do good in a small amount of time. We quit because our voices can’t be heard. We quit because of too much pressure. We quit because we are no longer happy.
Work should be a balance of professionalism and fun. Growth is not only for leaders but it should also be for everyone who serves the company. For without the small individuals working so hard, the company will not succeed. Playing fair, knowing your boundaries, and focusing on the individual’s growth and performance will not only reflect on the leader’s performance but the company itself. So for leaders out there, Ask yourself why one of your employees resigned or left your team? Is it the company? Is it his/her performance? Or is it your performance as a leader? Was it really bad management? Pressure is not good. It is not healthy. People quit people because of bad management and poor leadership and people skills.
I have been with my company for almost 8 years and I have served several leaders. I have adapted to change and pressure. Change is good, we have to be adaptable to change. It is part of our growth.
I want to grow more and succeed but what if I am not happy. What if i feel pressured and I feel I have not done the right things? What if I was just given so little time to adjust? Said to myself, I can’t quit. I am not a quitter. I have always been a fighter and a survivor.
I can do this. But if not, should I just quit because People quit People?….
Playing cupid was maybe one of my mission in life. I played the role of a cupid to a very special couple close to my heart. He was my boss and I was his Senior Rep. I have a sweet young friend who just came out of a very bad break up. Very bad that we wanted to cheer her up in every way we can. It started with an innocent crush. My boss Mikki would always tell me and my other colleagues that he has a certain admiration for my friend Andy. He finds her really cute. Oh yes, those were the exact words he said. I was the innocent friend who then told my lovely friend Andy that he finds her really cute. Andy then replied, He is cute himself too. And once again I told my boss Mikki that Andy saw him the same way. Mikki confided that when he was new in the company he saw this beautiful petite girl who caught his attention. And that was Andy short for Andria. He kept that secret crush for quite some time until the right time when I became his Rep and was able to bridge the budding admiration between them. This was the start of a love so pure and true that I myself can say was Heaven sent.
Six years have passed. Blessed with a very adorable little boy named Kyle (my godson). A lot has happened in between those years. I was a witness to the trials, tears, fights and joys. It was truly a learning experience for both of them. To prepare them for a lifetime of forever. Who says that relationships are easy. As Mikki puts it, it takes planning and preparation. Last Saturday, the birthday of Mikki. He planned a marriage proposal to Andy. It was really funny because all the time Andy thought she was the one planning the birthday party surprise for Mikki along with Mikki’s parents. She did not know that we knew (close friends). We played along and acted as if we did not know what will happen during the so-called surprise Birthday party of Mikki.
I was the first visitor to arrive. WOW! was the only thing I could say. The place was beautiful. I knew this was going to be a special night. Prior to the event. Mikki texted me and said he truly hope that Me and the rest of the gang will be able to attend. I promised him I will surely be there. I have to be there. These are two people closest to my heart. I wanted to believe that it was me who paved the way for them to be together. I also believed that it was the Hand of God who worked into their lives and weaved a beautiful future together.
It was such a beautiful night, You could feel the love and almost taste it. Truly a memorable moment witnessed by only the closest friends and family. A very intimate moment that will forever be etched in our minds. We were all in tears when Mikki knelt down and asked Andy. She was in tears and was really surprised. Her heart was overwhelmed with love and happiness. He shed tears too. Michael and Andria are two beautiful people who deserves a happy and beautiful ending. There love story is still a work in progress, more things to learn from each other, more time to bond, more time to prepare. But what is important right now is that they have found each other with so much love to share and will be spending the rest of their lives together. I am the eternal hopeless romantic. After that night, I went home and became a stronger believer of happy endings and true love. Yes! there can be happy endings for each one of us. It just takes a lot of patience and hard work. Love is truly a mystery that only two people in love can understand and experience.
This is just the Start of Michael and Andria’s Happy Ending…..
Tomorrow I will be celebrating my 37th birthday. No celebrations nor fanfare. just some quality family time. I began to assess the years gone by and truly I must say I lived a colorful and emotional life. 37 years may sound short but when I look back I have been through a lot of things which I believe a normal 37-year-old woman would not have gone through. For starters, I knew all my life that I was adopted. My mom was so strict that me and my brother can’t do stuff normal teenagers would do. I was a rebel. I did a lot of stupid and crazy things in life. I never had a perfect relationship with any guy. The longest relationship I had would actually be around 8 years or so. I lost 2 children to a genetic disorder. I have piles and piles of debt. My career is I would say steady. No personal growth for at least 7 years. I was tricked by a man in lending him money and never paying me back. Now he acts as if nothing happened even if it almost reached the high courts. My brother’s long time girlfriend died in a horrible fire which took her life and her niece’s life. She was very close to me. I liked her and losing her created a hole in my heart. I lost my Dad last February of this year. This will be my first birthday without him.
I have 3 wonderful and smart children. They are the only source of strength and joy in my life. There are some people whom they think they could better take care of my kids but I will never allow them to do so because my children are mine alone. Nobody can take them away from me. For some my parenting skills may sometimes be too liberated and carefree. But that’s how I want my 3 children to be raised. To have an open mind, to speak what they have to say. To be able to do the things I was not able to do. To reach their full potential. Their achievements are mine too.
If I look back now, I would say that my life is full of trials and drama. This blog would not be enough to sum up everything that has happened in the past. But I am the strong person that I am right now because of the trials, problems and hardships I have faced through the years. I am still a work in progress, I am learning and I hope I don’t get too tired or too frustrated with everything that is going on. I am a strong believer in love, life and happiness. I may not have found the right person to be with. I know somewhere out there, he is there for me.
My life is like a canvass. There is mystery, beauty, drama and joy rolled into one. I don’t care what others may say about me or how I live my life. What is important is that I live my life the way I want it to be. I don’t hurt nor step on others feelings. I learn from my mistakes. Impart to people my learning experiences. What I really need right now is to relax, enjoy and appreciate what I have and be content. I just need to pause for a minute and move on once again.
Everyone deserves to be happy. We must do what we have to do in order for us to achieve what needs to be achieved and learn to Live life, like there is no tomorrow….