when Patience is being tested

Through the years I have learned to live my life with different trials, hardships, heartaches and miseries. And through the years I have learned to fight, accept, move forward and forgive. They say Patience is a virtue, oh yes indeed!!! One of the virtues I have in my life is having the patience of a saint. I really do my best to keep calm in situations that I could not even comprehend. I have been through a lot in my life and for some this is a true testament of a person being so patient, strong and courageous. Persevering in the face of difficult circumstance. We all go through life in different directions and we handle things in our own ways. Sometimes, there are people you will meet and be part of your life who will surely test your patience and energy and will push you through the brink of insanity. These people are the inconsiderate ones. They have no idea what you go through life, they don’t care how you feel or how you are coping.

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when Patience is being tested, sometimes you think your intelligence is also being put to test. You question yourself, you question your abilities, even your own character. You feel like giving up in certain situations that you feel you’re being pushed away or being put down. Sometimes you feel like it’s being done intentionally to break your spirit.


Lately, in all aspects of my life my patience is once again being tested. Oh yes, I cried. Bucket of tears, sleepless nights even getting sick just thinking about it. I came to a point in my life that I wanted to just raise my hands up and just move forward. I can’t! I just can’t! I have never been a quitter nor a whiner. I always face my problems head on. I have come so far in life and my children look up to me in terms of being Patient, strong-willed and brave.
Life is an endless battle. I can never ever give up. I owe it to myself and my children. Even if for some I am not deserving of something I have worked so hard for, I can never allow them to let me think that way.


Test me, test my patience, test others but you can never put me down. I may cry, fall down, fail, but you can never have the life that I have lived. A life that is full of love, trust and care from people who believes in me and who will stand by my side no matter what.

Look at yourself in the mirror and see for yourself, Are you even worth my Time and Patience?



Have you ever fallen in love so deeply and passionately? Well, I did! Yeah, the moment I learned Home Economics at school I knew I was madly in love with COOKING!!!!!

This is an actual picture of my Pancit Canton and Carbonara
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It was not a boy that I first fell in love with but with Cooking. Well, at first I had a fling with Baking. I first tried my hand in Baking Cakes and Cookies. I was so hooked with my Mother’s oven at the age of 12. Whatever I learn from school I would try it at home. From Chiffon cake, Chocolate cake, Banana Nut Cake, Banana Carrot cake, Crema de Fruta, Pineapple upside down cake, Butter Cookies, Oatmeal Cookies and so on. My official tasters was my brother and my Dad. So hooked that my Dad would buy me ingredients on a weekly basis. I would spend so much time during weekends at my Mom’s kitchen. Mom saw the potential that she was planning to open up a small bakery for me. But as I’ve said, it was just a fling. I then moved on to the real deal. Cooking delectable dishes. My Dad was a natural cook. He is Chinese, so most of the dishes that he has passed on to me was Asian cuisine. I loved it! He taught me well and he passed down all the dishes he knew to me. Dad taught me Chinese Adobo which has a darker and richer sauce. My first lessons in the kitchen started with my nanny Edith. she was really a good cook that I couldn’t forget her Chicken Adobo (chicken with lots of garlic, pepper, soy sauce, laurel leaf, vinegar, sugar, salt and pepper). Her rice cakes and cassava cake. Edith taught me the basics of cooking. I am thankful for her.

Mom said I have a talent for copying the same exact dish even without a book or list of ingredients just by tasting it, I would know. Which was true. I love to experiment with flavors. I watch cooking shows to give me ideas on better mixing of spices and herbs. But all in all, my recipes are basically unique. It’s simply a trademark I have earned through the years of cooking for friends and family.

My Lumpia Shanghai, Tacos, Fried Chicken and Pasta
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Cooking for me is one of my greatest passions in life. Apart from Hosting events and Blogging. Cooking gives me the rush I need whenever I am feeling all the pains and problems of life. For me, it is not true that you must not cook whenever you feel pain or troubled because it would show on the taste and presentation of your food. For me, whenever I cook, I give my best. My very best. I think of the people who will partake of the dish. I want them to feel special, loved and satisfied. When I am in the kitchen, I feel like an artist. Creating art and flavor. I don’t feel tired even if I was cooking for 400 to 500 people, which I did when I tried the catering business. It was financially fulfilling and at the same time I was able to execute my passion.

Grilled Pork, Macaroni Salad, Nachos and Bicol Express
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I wish I could put up a restaurant business someday. I want to be able to showcase my creativity and talent. I have received numerous comments about my dishes. For me it is personal. I take it seriously whenever I cook it has to be perfection or at least put a smile on the face of my crowd. My greatest fan was my Dad. Whenever I learn something new or would want to try out a new recipe he would officially be the judge. He was my critic but it was all praises from him. Not because he was my dad but because he knew I got it from him. Dad knew I put my heart and soul in every dish I make. The enthusiasm of holding a Wok, slicing vegetables, sauteing garlic and onions. The adrenalin rush of meeting a delivery deadline. I would feel so tired but there’s no stopping. The kitchen is my kingdom. I am the queen there. It is so overwhelming most especially if the dish I am preparing is the most awaited meal by my family.

Cooking is such a pleasure for me. It releases my stress, allows me to forget my problems and sometimes it helps to score with men. They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. I get Wows! from the men I date whenever they find out I am a good cook. It helps though because they know that you know your way around the kitchen. they won’t get hungry or rely on Delivery take out services. I haven’t really cooked for my new partner yet. I am thrilled to be cooking for him for the first time when he arrives from Sweden this May. Well, I am confident that he would love my cooking and my dishes. Ha Ha Ha!

Chicken Curry, Pork Stew, Fried Chicken and Lumpiang Hubad
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My first true love is Cooking! I got hurt from all the frying, I cried from slicing onions, made me happy whenever I get good reviews. Satisfied me whenever I earn money from my catering jobs. At the end of the day, I am a fulfilled cook. I want to learn more, get as much experience as I can and hone my cooking skills further. Ah, The joys of Cooking. I will never get bored of this.

What Motivates Me….

A lot has been said about what motivates a person. Each of us has his/her own motivation in life. Mine is as clear as daylight. What motivates me is my CHILDREN…. always and forever!

For some, Money is a motivator. Family, God, Fame, Promotion, Love, Excellence and so on are big motivators in life. But do we really seek our inner thoughts and inner being? What really motivates us? What drives us to reach something? Why do we need to motivate ourselves?


Recently, due to the sudden turn of events, It made me think more seriously and deeply. I had to re motivate myself, made a list and asked myself what I should do to inspire the inner me to move forward and reach my goals in life. The first question that popped in my mind is What do I really need to achieve? Followed by, Why do I want to achieve it? How will I achieve it? I want to do good first and foremost with my work and career. In the next seven months, I aim to give an extraordinary performance. How will I achieve this? I have always known myself by working quietly and with no distractions around. I want to focus mainly on my tasks and getting a very positive result. I said to myself the other day that I will never engage in things that will hinder me from doing my best. Meaning, I will avoid people, things and situations that will cause me to lose focus. I have to keep my eye on the Gold. I am doing this not just for myself but for the people I owe so much. I am tired of fighting and saying my piece. I just want to keep quiet, and keep my act together.


So What do I want to achieve after seven months? Simple, I want to get what I deserve. Eight years of hard work, loyalty and patience is tough. Why do I want to achieve it? I have worked so hard to come this far and it’s fair that I get it. How? By working very hard in the next seven months or so….

I will stay focus, show a different side of me. People may wonder what’s this new side of me and some may get worried but I don’t care as long as I’m doing my job and I’m not doing anything wrong I will be perfectly fine.


Motivation must come from within. People may influence motivation but I am lucky that I learned it from myself alone. Lessons learned the hard way, but I am glad it did not change the real person in me. I stand up for what I believed in and say the things I strongly disagree with. I know when it’s wrong and I know when it’s right. I am still the same person but with a very different attitude this time.

Nobody will help you, unless you help yourself. Trust only yourself and only yourself and Make things happen!

Unsolicited Advice, anyone?

We sometimes give advice to people whom we think needs help and a push but based from my experience It’s offending to receive unsolicited advice most especially to those who are not asking for it. We do not know what these people have gone through in life, what their challenges and fears, their successes and failures, their hardships and goals. Giving out a piece of advice not asked nor requested is not a good thing. Don’t act as if you know how to tackle life and others don’t. Challenges, trials are all part of life. We want everything to be as normal and simple. There comes a moment in one’s life that you sometimes feel incapable and demotivated. Let this be. You will never know the cause of one’s emotions and by just pouring out a piece of your mind on the situation may aggravate one’s feelings, making a person more severely incapable. I give out advice on my blog site but to people in general and not to make people less of a person and to boost morale.


THINK before you speak your mind out….. Assess the person before you give out unsolicited advice because you might be surprised that the person in front of you came from battles you have never imagined. Let people feel what they want to feel, Let them learn from their mistakes, Let them wallow in their sadness. Wait if they ask for your advice and you may freely give them what they need. We may still have a lot to learn in life before we can be a pro in all aspects of our daily lives.


Optimism is ME! In all my 37 years I have been through so many battles and I am proud to say that I am still standing tall. I have greatly learned from my mistakes and I am still a work in progress. I truly ask for motivation and guidance from the people I truly respect and love. The people whom I am very close to. The people who proved to me and the society that they have what it takes to face any difficulties in life. I am open to feedback and suggestions. But please do not tell me what to do and how to do things. I do not take advice or crap from people who doesn’t know half of what I’ve been through. I eat and breathe challenges and trials. I take everything in stride. I have my ways in coping and the people close to me know who I really am. If you have something to say and you know It’s not being asked from you, Keep it to yourself. Sometimes Less talk, fewer mistakes…..

Leaders are Learners

This is a post related to my other one Why People Quit People. I would like to focus on leadership skills these past few weeks and share what I have I learned from my readings and my experiences from my previous leaders.

The title of this post is Leaders are Learners which for me is very very important. Leaders, should always have a thirst for knowledge. A leader should constantly sharpen the mind and the soul. It does not stop when he/she gets promoted to the position. Learning is not only gained from reading books, attending training’s and seminars. It is also helpful to have a wise and spirited mentor. We learn from our own experiences in life. We listen what others can say and contribute. Leaders are not afraid to be overshadowed by others. Leaders are supposed to be good listeners, they know how to listen, understand and acknowledge others. Nobody succeeds alone from the book “What Makes a Leader” Yes, a team will never reach their goals if it is not a collective team effort from its team members and the Leader. A leader will never succeed if he/she has closed their ears to opinions and suggestions of others. A good leader see potential in others and will never be afraid to hone the skills of others and become a mentor. He/she will never be afraid to share the best practices learned from experience.


Leadership is a learning process. Nobody was born to be a perfect leader. What is important is to keep an open mind, to always have a drive to do better, to listen to what others have to say. Leadership is not being the boss of your company. It is leading people to achieve their full potential. To motivate people to success. It is inspiring people to do good and produce results. It is not embarrassing people pushing them to do what is not right. Leaders are not supposed to cheat to be on top, because with this practice you teach your subordinates to do the wrong things and produces bad leaders. Leaders do the right things!


Leaders are Learners, they know when to listen, they know they need to learn more. They know they need to develop themselves to be able to become effective and successful leaders.
If you are a Leader and you are reading this blog. STOP! and learn. Ask yourself, What you are doing wrong? Do you have enough knowledge and skills to handle a team? Do you need to learn more? Accept it, do not be afraid to accept the fact that you are a learning individual. You are not perfect. Therefore, there is a big room for change and development. Listen and learn my dear leaders….

“If you stop learning today, You stop leading tomorrow” Howard Hendricks

Why People quit People?…

When do you finally say I GIVE UP!!!! We come to a point in our lives when we feel like giving up on our careers. There are certain factors that makes us want to quit. One, the pay is not good. Two, the company is unstable, Three, benefits sucks! Four, Better offer from a better company. But, what keeps us from staying and not leaving the company we have loved for the longest time??? Simple, it’s the people around us. The management team, the team itself, and the friends we have made along the way. BUT!!!! What if these same people are the cause of wanting to just leave and quit altogether? You see, when managers do not know how to handle or lead their people chances are their subordinates loses focus, gets demoralized and demotivated. Leaders are supposed to inspire, lead and push their subordinates to the best of their abilities and not only see the faults. I have read in my favorite book The One Minute Manager, that you give One Minute Reprimand and One Minute Praising. Of course you have to set One Minute Goals for the subordinates to know what needs to be done and needs to be achieved. Otherwise, giving reprimands and just focusing on faults will just make the individual feel less and less incapable of doing their tasks. A leader should learn to support his/her team. Make him/her feel that there is always room for improvements and the leader should be there to support the individual in every step of the way in achieving goals.


We quit because we don’t get the support we need. We quit because we feel too much pressure to do good in a small amount of time. We quit because our voices can’t be heard. We quit because of too much pressure. We quit because we are no longer happy.

Work should be a balance of professionalism and fun. Growth is not only for leaders but it should also be for everyone who serves the company. For without the small individuals working so hard, the company will not succeed. Playing fair, knowing your boundaries, and focusing on the individual’s growth and performance will not only reflect on the leader’s performance but the company itself. So for leaders out there, Ask yourself why one of your employees resigned or left your team? Is it the company? Is it his/her performance? Or is it your performance as a leader? Was it really bad management? Pressure is not good. It is not healthy. People quit people because of bad management and poor leadership and people skills.

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I have been with my company for almost 8 years and I have served several leaders. I have adapted to change and pressure. Change is good, we have to be adaptable to change. It is part of our growth.

I want to grow more and succeed but what if I am not happy. What if i feel pressured and I feel I have not done the right things? What if I was just given so little time to adjust? Said to myself, I can’t quit. I am not a quitter. I have always been a fighter and a survivor.

I can do this. But if not, should I just quit because People quit People?….